So here is the bad news: Divorce is occurring worldwide in epidemic proportions – it is currently thought that divorce occurs in 50% of all marriages in the US. Of course in the blush of young love and marriage, no one expects that they will be a statistic. Unfortunately, at least one-half of those entering marriage will indeed end in divorce. I certainly hope that your marriage will not be one of the unfortunate fifty percent!
We all have probably have had our heart broken at some time in our life. Our first love probably ended in a heart-break that we never forget. Unfortunately, the pain of shattered dreams and expectations caused by divorce is even more difficult to weather and to recover from. And then there are the difficulties that divorce brings our children and even to our financial situation. What I find astonishing is not that divorce often has short term effects on one’s psychological health and our sense of well-being but that divorce has significant negative effects on both our short term and long-term physical health, as well! There are studies that show that long term disease processes are increased by as much as 20% because of divorce. The stress incurred by divorce can cause heart disease and even cancer. A compromised immune system, a decrease in longevity, hypertension, high cholesterol and even the risk of developing diabetes is significantly increased with divorce. Surprisingly, even after remarriage these risks remain somewhat elevated.
Marriage therapy is an excellent path to increasing understanding one another, empathizing with our partner, and learning how to repair and grow the relationship we have invested so much in. I can say with absolute certainty that your dedicated effort to save, revive and reinvent your marriage will be one of the most important things you will ever do in your life.
Perhaps you are reading this because you find yourself in a situation where you and your life partner are struggling in your relationship and perhaps you are even contemplating divorce. Maybe you have tried traditional marriage counseling but you are still “stuck.” Maybe it’s time to try Intensive Marriage Counseling. Intensive Marriage Counseling is remarkable and most effective because you get multiple hours of marriage work in a short span of time vs. one hour once a week. My Weekend Marriage Intensive Program is actually about 20 hours of therapy over a Friday through Sunday in a private cottage away from the stresses of everyday life. It’s just you, your partner and me, so I can focus and customize the Intensive to your specific issues.The program is unique in that in addition to traditional therapy, you and your partner are observed in a variety of settings and activities, including those that occur in your everyday life at home. This presents many learning opportunities that are practiced and taken home for continued relationship improvement and growth. If this sounds like something you and your mate are interested in, I would love to hear from you. I invite you to drop me a confidential email here.