The Gottman Method
The work by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, PhDs, is truly groundbreaking and revelatory in the science and methodology of marriage therapy. The Gottman Method, as it has benn labeled, is a highly structured and goal-oriented form of couples therapy that is designed to help couples maintain healthy, lasting relationships.
Why is the Gottman Method different?
Combining the knowledge and wisdom of nearly forty years of studies and clinical practice, Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s study of more than 3,000 couples. This research shows what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed out of this research to help partners:
- Increase respect, affection, and closeness
- Break through and resolve conflict when they feel stuck
- Generate greater understanding between partners
- Keep conflict discussions calm
Some of the relationship issues that may be addressed in therapy include:
- Lack of communication
- Frequent arguments / relationship conflicts
- Couples on the verge of separation who may have become emotionally distanced
- Explicit issues such as infidelity, sexual problems or disorders, financial problems, disagreements on parenting
Gottman Method Effectiveness demonstrated in scientific studies.
The effectiveness of Gottman Method has been demonstrated is several scientific studies.
Who can benefit from Gottman Method Couples Therapy?
The Gottman Method is designed to support couples across all economic, cultural, racial and sexual orientation segments. The Gottman Institute claims that even strong couples with “normal” levels of conflict may benefit from the Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Gottman therapists aim to help couples build stronger relationships overall and healthier ways to cope with issues as they arise in the future.
Why Gottman? Isn’t all marriage therapy alike?
There is no shortage of approaches to the science and art of relationship counseling. Amid all the orientations, the speculations, the correlations, the dos lists, the don’ts lists, the subjects of professional workshops, what is actually done in practice and what is actually effective in practice stands alone. Similarly, all of the literature, the hype, the promises, the “Just Do These 10 Things” lists, and every solitary issue of Cosmo, have a kernel of truth and helpfulness in them but are largely off the mark.
Dr. Brawner uses the Gottman Method because it is more effective.
Dr. Brawner has been employing the Gottman Method in her couples therapy for 15 years.
“I have been in practice for over 25 years, and you can be certain that I have read a myriad of books, journals, magazines, and blogs and I have attended countless workshops, all purporting to be the cure and equation for an ailing marriage or relationship. For me, all of that has been a colossal waste of time. Certainly, a handful of insights, truths and ideas have been gleaned, but overall, all that time and money spent, did not provide me what I needed to best help the couples I work with. That is, until 2002, when I took the first course offered by John M. Gottman, PhD, on Marital Therapy. That single event shook my world and changed the way that I conduct therapy.”
“Using the Gottman Methodology, I am able to see a much higher success rate for couples than any other method of couples therapy. I learned many of the things that I still use and share with couples that I work with, such as how to predict marital stability within 94% accuracy, how couples really sustain their marriages in comparison to common myths and misconceptions. I learned how the quality of relationships affects immune functioning, physical health and well being. I learned specific and precise therapy techniques based on years of scientific analyses that help resolve the real problems in marriages, as they change over time, and I learned how to help couples feel a renewed sense of caring and partnership.”
How Dr. Brawner uses the Gottman Method in Couples Intensive Weekends.
Dr. Brawner’s Couple Intensive Retreat Weekends utilize Gottman Methodology. “Today, while I continue to work with couples in my office still using the techniques learned from the Gottman’s research and teachings. my most exciting and impactful work is done through my Couples Weekend Intensive Retreats. It is in this environment that Gottman’s methods of assessing a marriage and planning and implementing appropriate interventions are most effective and I am even better able to utilize the powerful interventions and teachings that become invaluable when the weekend is over and you are on your own.”
Post Intensive Weekend follow up.
Dr. Brawner is available for long-distance assistance via Skype/FaceTime sessions after you’ve completed your Intensives Weekend. These are important to keep you on track and applying the skills that will keep you out of relationship trouble and, instead, help your relationship to grow stronger and more satisfying every day.